Breaking The Good Girl Double Bind

Breaking The Good Girl Double Bind: A Masterclass to help you please less and LIVE more!

So you feel like you're either "not enough" or "too much" right? 

The "weakling" vs. the bitch. 

Your softness vs. your drive. 

The innocence vs. the sl*t. 

So it can be a struggle to dance between being expected to be assertive, own your boundaries and communicate with confidence yet needing and wanting to be accommodating for everyone (and let's be honest to not step on anyones toes and still be liked by everyone right*?)

Confident but humble. 

Ambitious without appearing aggressive. 

Navigating this contradiction can lead to HUGE internal conflict, as leaning one way and fulfilling one expectation is (in your eyes) going to result in criticism for not meeting the opposing one.

It's EXHAUSTING. 

So my love, I’d love to know - do you resonate with any of the below? 

• You’re always available for people, even when you are exhausted because you feel guilty for saying no 
• You keep quiet on what you REALLY want to say because you fear rocking the boat, people leaving or worry they won’t like you. 
• You keep dating someone who isn’t right for you because you’re afraid of hurting him and want to be nice 
• You apologise before sharing any ideas saying something like “this might be silly, but…” 
• You feel like you need to give elaborate explanations to say no to plans
• You crave to be erotically alive and fully expressed sexually, yet it seems wrong, you feel shame and  have a fear of being too much so you suppress it 

I get it. I've been there. 

You see, I personally spent A LOT of my life as the good girl. I was the shy introverted girl who kept quiet at the back of the room. I was the straight A student (until I hit year 8 in high school and wanted to have fun and my priorities changed). 

I was the one who went unnoticed in groups. I would be this fun extroverted type in my close friends circles because I felt safe. Yet speaking up? Oooftt THE FEAR. THE ANXIETY that moved through my ENTIRE BODY and held me back from SO many opportunities. 

I was afraid of putting my hand up incase I got it wrong. I was SO disconnected from my body, my sexuality, I felt SO.much.shame around being in my fullest sexual expression. It wasn’t celebrated growing up. 

I overextended myself for people because I couldn’t say no. I actually didn’t know how. Friends, clients, I would give and give and give - because I attached my worth to what I had to offer. Then I would end up burnt out and resenting people - because I couldn’t say no in the first place.

I remember sitting in a psychologists office like 8 years ago and she gave me a homework task of setting boundaries and going through this worksheet- I didn’t even know what boundaries were. So I attempted it, went back the next week and lets just say she looked at it and we needed to start all over again.  

I had SO much fear. 

I didn’t know how to express my wants, my needs, my desires so I kept them to myself and just told myself the story of “I don’t know”. 

I would struggle to say no to men too, go along with physical touch yet feeling frozen inside, or be indirect and string things along and then just eventually let it fade out rather than being direct and saying no. 

It wasn’t until I started doing somatic work that I really was able to embody and communicate my no with people. I started working with the parts of myself I suppressed through archetype work like the sacred slut and the seductress and truly ALLOWED myself to be seen in it. I tapped into the parts of me that I'd chosen to suppress for most of my life and WOW has life changed. 

I am SO connected to my body's yes and no these days, I feel free in my sexual expression and I communicate my desires with men and share my truth on how I really feel. 

And the magic I receive as a result of it? Well you can connect with me on IG to see even more!

And I want this for you too. 

In this hour masterclass, we will be going through 

1. The Good Girl Prison - Identify the good girl patterns in your life, and how they are limiting you 
2. Exploring empowering archetypes - The Seductress and The Wild Woman
3. How to integrate these into your daily life so that you can own your magnetic presence and sexuality, set boundaries and be able to express your desires freely 
4. The Art of being “Too much” - How to feel safe in being the FULLest expression of you 

What you will get out of it? 

1. Identify where your good girl is running the show, where you are people pleasing and not speaking what you REALLY want to say and learn how to break out of this mould
2. Understand and embody your dark authentic archetypes and feel so deeply confident in who you are as a woman with the ability to GENUINELY express yourself 
3. Learn how to articulate your needs and desires effectively when you learn how to communicate honestly and assertively 
4. Establish healthy boundaries - and learn how to set and maintain them so that you don’t end up overgiving and overextending yourself at the expense of you

Ready to break free from being the Good Girl and actually own your wild woman?! 

Register below for FREE. 

I am excited to have you!