Not Just Lying There: The Labor of Bottoming in Edge Play & S/M with @Ms_Kitten_
Event description
Not Just Lying There: The Labor of Bottoming in Edge Play & S/M
Date: Saturday, 25 October 2025
Time: 9:00 PM SAST | 3:00 PM EST
Presenter: Ms_Kitten_
Tickets 🎟
Sliding scale tickets available.
This class will be recorded and sent to all ticket holders.
Class Description
“You just have to lie there quietly, it’s easy.”
How many bottoms have heard that before?
The truth is—bottoming is not easy. And it’s not passive.
Bottoming is an active, embodied practice that requires skill, focus, self-awareness, and preparation. While kink communities spend endless hours teaching Tops technical skills and safety protocols, the skills of bottoming are often overlooked, treated as if they just happen automatically.
But play is a dance. And like any dance, it only works if both partners know the steps.
In this class we’ll explore:
✨ What “active bottoming” really means in edge play & S/M
✨ The invisible labor bottoms bring to scenes
✨ The principles of agency, capacity, information, boundaries, and communication
✨ The hard skills that make bottoms indispensable
✨ How self-care, vulnerability, and preparation shape bottoming
✨ Creating a culture of appreciation for bottom skills in edge play
Because while soft skills like communication and self-awareness are vital, hard skills matter too. A bottom who knows wound care, can set up a sharps-safe space, and understands the technicals well enough to Top the scene themselves isn’t just safer — they’re an empowered, educated partner who elevates the entire dynamic.
Whether you’re a Top wanting to better recognize and support the work of your partners, or a Bottom ready to deepen your own skills, this class is for you.
About Your Educator
Ms_Kitten_ is a sexuality educator, kink practitioner, and community organizer whose teaching style blends sharp truth-telling with embodied self-care. As both a Top and Bottom, she brings a unique dual perspective to her classes, highlighting the artistry, risk, and intimacy of edge play.
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