Open Community Potluck Sunnyvale October4 at Rose's

To reserve your spot, get your TICKET here on Humanitix.  

RSVP on Plura HERE to let other people know you're attending, to be able to participate in the event chat, and have opportunities to connect with other attendees you may meet at the event.  Bloom RSVP does not reserve you a spot at the potluck. 

Come gather and share stories and experiences of non-monogamy, relationships, and community; Whether you're simply curious, attending to support a friend/partner, or if you are actively practicing some form of non-monogamy. Experience with non monogamy is not required to attend.

We welcome all to attend, straight and LGBTQIA+

The organizer of this community values consent, honesty, authenticity, vulnerability, kindness, and accountability. Communication is a critical element of all connections, so we're here to practice connecting in our safer space we've cultivated. We hope that you feel welcome and at home here. 

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Please read all of the community rules and safer space guidelines below before attending your first event. 

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CAPACITY

This is a good sized event space, so we will have capacity for 30 people. Tickets required. 

LOCATION

Open HQ : 775 San Diego Avenue, Sunnyvale

Hosts: Rose and John

ACCESSIBILITY

Small steps into house, stairways to get to upstairs rooms (optional). Steps into the backyard porch / garden area.

PET

No pets currently. Service animals welcome. 

WHEN ARE THINGS HAPPENING?

If this is your first event, arriving on time is essential so you can attend opening circle. If you will be late and miss opening circle, we prefer you reschedule for a future visit. If you have attended before and will be late, let a host of other attendee know so that we can expect you.

7:00pm - 8:00pm: Socializing and Potluck Food Time

8:00pm - 8:15pm Opening Circle - Rules, Topic

8:15pm - 9:15pm: Small group discussion time - Break into small groups to share thoughts on the topic or choose your own.

9:15pm - 9:30pm: Closing Circle - Share your thoughts and experiences with the larger group.

9:30pm - 10:00pm: Freestyle socializing

DISCUSSION TOPIC

Talking about Parenting (or thinking about parenting) as non-monogamous in the bay area, in this decade. 

Do you want kids? do you have kids?  Do you know you don't want kids? 

Sharing experiences from different perspectives : people who HAVE kids and what it's like in this place/time/economy, and people who don't have kids and the thoughts, wishes, fears that they have around it all. 

Talk about the desire for kids and community but the reality of overload and lack of support / connection with other ENM folk, or other folk at all.

"It takes a village" - but the village is often 1 or 2 people

Open the floor for feedback on if people would like there to be more kid friendly community events, and what would that look like? 

POTLUCK FOOD

This is a dinnertime potluck event, so bring food/drinks to share.

Potluck sign up CLICK HERE (Link coming soon)

Your potluck contribution can be home cooked or take out. All options are much preferred to 5 different types of chips and dip, so please check the potluck sign up before grabbing your food. If you want a challenge, there are usually people attending who would appreciate Gluten Free, Vegetarian, Keto, or Low Sugar foods.

PARKING

Street parking is accessible.  The park across the street is ok to park in. 

DRINKING/SMOKING

Alcohol is OK in moderation and BYOB. Smoking cannabis outside is OK, please refrain from smoking cigarettes before or during the event, the host (Rose) is very sensitive to the smell and it can cause her to get sick.   That said, smoking and drinking are not a focus of the event. 

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COMMUNITY RULES and GUIDELINES
CONFIDENTIALITY

• Everything shared in this group should be treated as confidential and private.
• Do not greet people outside of this group in a manner that would out them.

CONVERSATIONAL CONSENT

• Be aware of your conversation topics and who around you can hear them. Explicit conversations you may feel comfortable talking about or hearing may cause other attendees to feel uncomfortable or unwelcome.  If you are unsure of whether or not your conversational topic will be welcome by all within hearing range, checkin/ask the nearby people, or find a more private location, or table the conversation for a later time. 

CONSENT AND RESPECTING BOUNDARIES

• At this event you may see hugging, kissing, and cuddling. Do not assume that what someone does with other people will be comfortable for them to do with you.
• Always ask for consent when entering someone’s personal space.
• Hard cruising (flirting with as many people as possible, asking for people's contact info or for a date whom you have just met without obvious mutual interest) at these events is a hard NO. Getting to know people is great, but don't be pushy. That kind of energy is not welcome here.

HOLDING SPACE FOR EACH OTHER
If you feel comfortable doing so, hold space for each other. Holding space means letting others speak their truth, without assumptions, judgement, unwanted advice, or trying to fix them. Sometimes this is the only place where someone can have space held for them to simply be and express what they are experiencing.

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COMMUNITY RULES and GUIDELINES
CONFIDENTIALITY

• Everything shared in this group should be treated as confidential and private.
• Do not greet people outside of this group in a manner that would out them.

CONVERSATIONAL CONSENT

• Be mindful of your conversation topics and who can hear them. Explicit conversations you're comfortable discussing may make others feel uncomfortable.
  
• If you're unsure if your topic is okay for everyone nearby, check in and ask those around you, move to a private spot, or save it for later.

CONSENT AND BOUNDARIES

• You'll see people hugging, kissing, and cuddling at this event.  Don't assume what someone does with others is wanted with everyone. Always ask before entering someone's personal space.
• No Hard cruising - Flirting with everyone of a certain type, asking for contact info or a date right away without mutual interest—that's a big no. It's great to get to know people, but don't be pushy. That energy isn't welcome here.

• HOLDING SPACE FOR EACH OTHER
  If you feel comfortable doing so, hold space for each other. Holding space means letting others share their truth, without assumptions, judgment, unwanted advice, or trying to fix things. Sometimes, this is the only pace for a person to just be, and to express what they are going through.

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SAFER SPACE GUIDELINES

We aim to create a “safer space” for everyone in our community. But what does that mean?

A “safer space” is a place where we all follow guidelines that promote respect and dignity for each person. It’s a space for open, honest communication, where we take responsibility for understanding our own triggers and are open to learning about how others may be triggered.  It's a space where we value confidentiality, empathy, compassion, and acceptance of differences.

That said, community rules and guidelines do not and cannot guarantee your safety, nor do they ensure that you will always feel safe.

Each person is responsible for setting and communicating clear boundaries when engaging with people at events. Respecting others' physical and personal boundaries is essential at all times.

Keep in mind that you can make someone uncomfortable without intending to do so. Comments that may seem harmless to you could be painful to others. Light touch, hugging, cuddling, and other seemingly innocent forms of physical contact can be offensive or alarming when such touch is given without explicit permission.

Pro-Tip for new attendees: Circulate at events. Be graceful. If you’re enjoying talking to someone, give him or her the opportunity to exit the conversation anyway.

We do not tolerate harassment of any kind. If you harass someone, you will be asked to leave and may be banned from future events. Harassment
includes (but is not limited to) unwanted sexual advances, comments about age, race, religion, nationality, gender, sexual orientation,
weight, or lifestyle, and touching, photographing, or recording others without their explicit consent. Harassment also includes pressuring
people for contact information, intimidation, mockery, stalking, following, and disrupting events.

We believe that most people who attend our events do so without ill intentions. However, if you experience or witness inappropriate behavior, please bring it to the attention of the organizer, host, or a person at the event that you feel safe with.

All attendees are expected to read, understand, and follow these guidelines. Violating these rules may result in the loss of attendance privileges.

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VOLUNTEER at Open Community Events

Feeling grateful for this community and want to do more? Volunteers are always welcome! We happily accept help at each event with facilitation and overseeing the flow of the evening, reading the community rules during opening circle, volunteers to welcome new attendees, as well as dish washing and clean up volunteers.