Asking for it: Bedroom Communication for Hotter Sex and Deeper Trust

ASKING FOR IT! A daylong workshop with Marcia Baczynski.

• Tired of leaving the bedroom feeling “meh”? 

• Do your fantasies and desires feel messy, confusing, or too risky to share? 

• Ready to stop hinting, over-explaining, or asking the wrong questions—and start getting the enthusiastic FUCK YES you crave?

In this workshop, you’ll learn how to express yourself fully, speak your desires with clarity and confidence, and create hotter, more playful intimacy with your partner.

What You’ll Learn

In this fun, practical, and eye-opening daylong workshop, we’ll explore:

• Why we don’t ask… and what we sneak instead – uncover the hidden patterns that keep your desires locked away, and learn how to break free.
  

• Desire smuggling – the subtle ways we try to get what we want without asking, why it backfires, and how to do it better (or not at all).
  

• Why “Is this okay?” kills the vibe – and the questions that actually spark excitement and consent.
  

• The 4 parts of a clear, sexy ask – most people only use one, but when you use them all, it transforms desire into a hell yes.
  

• The 3 things you can always request when you’re unsure what you want – tools to get started even when your desires feel messy.
  

• The secret pre-ask essentials – what needs to happen in your body, mind, and connection before you can truly communicate your desires.
  

• Sexy alternatives to asking – pragmatic ways to share what turns you on without feeling awkward or pushy.
  

• When your partner doesn’t “get it” – how to explain in ways that are hot, inviting, and fun, keeping the connection alive.
  

• Untangling your own confusing or conflicting desires – techniques to clarify what you really want so you can ask with confidence and playfulness.

What You’ll Take Away

Through playful exercises, interactive games, and hands-on practice, you’ll leave the workshop with:

✅ Confident, clear tools to ask for exactly what you want—and get it enthusiastically
✅ Fun, sexy exercises that spark hotter connection and irresistible communication
✅ Practical ways to ignite genuine desire instead of settling for lukewarm agreement
✅ Skills to create more space for play, intimacy, and real pleasure in every encounter
✅ Powerful distinctions that make asking, negotiating, and setting boundaries feel natural and effortless
✅ The support of a safe, playful space where you can explore, practice, and grow with others on the same journey

This isn’t just about technique—it’s about transforming the way you and your partner talk about sex so that both of you get more of what you actually want.

Because sex isn’t great when it’s “fine.”
It’s great when it’s a FUCK YES.

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Marcia Baczynski is a coach, author, and internationally known presenter who helps people talk about the things they were told never to talk about --sex, boundaries, consent, and desire. Her mission: help adults hungry for connection and intimacy ditch the shame, get clear on what they truly want, and create relationships that feel deliciously right—even when they don’t fit the mold.

Co-author of Creating Consent Culture: A Handbook for Educators, Marcia teaches with the School of Consent, Shakti Shiva Academy, and the Esalen Institute. Since 2003, she’s worked with tens of thousands of people through transformative workshops, immersive group programs and  private coaching. She’s been featured in hundreds of magazines, news outlets, radio interviews, and podcasts, sharing her straight talk and liberating perspectives.

ASKING FOR IT...

• A queer-affirming workshop

• Trauma-informed facilitation

• Come on your own or invite someone else - it's up to you

• Wear comfortable clothing that's easy to move in

• Clothing stays on for this workshop

• For people 18+

• Reserve your place now!