The Birds, The Bees, and The Therapies: An Introduction to Sex Positive Therapy

Learning Objectives:

• Participants will be able to identify, define and use the PLISSIT model 

• Identify and integrate 2 communication techniques for effective communication regarding sex in relational therapy and family systems

• Name and utilize the 3 stages of kink scene planning in kink and vanilla dynamics 

• Participants will be able to identify how to ethically discuss and work with desire discrepancy and desire development development. 

• Participants will be able to identify communication and negotiation techniques that center queer and kink identities and challenge preconceived notions of healthy sex that privileges heterosexuality.

Agenda

• 10:00-10:15: Introduction

• 10:15-10:30: What is Sex Therapy?

  • PLISSIT Model 

• 10:30-11:00: Desire Discrepancy and Development

  • Define Desire 

  • What Happens when Desire is Mismatched?

  • Painful Sex

    • Shame, Trauma, and Body Stuff 

  • What Builds Desire? 

    • Slow Sex

    • Erogenous Zone Exploration 

    • Communication 

• 11:00-11:30: Kink and BDSM

  • Intro 

  • Kink roles 

  • Cultural Baggage 

  • Communication helpful for kinksters and Vanilla folks 

    • 3 parts of Kink Scenes 

• 11:30-11:45: Non-Monogamy

  • Introduction 

  • How to Talk about it 

  • Some cultural narratives 

  • Let’s come back to this at a later date (Polyam Jam)

• 11:45-12:00

  • Wrap up

  • Questions and Answers 

*2 hours of Continuing Education pending approval by the MN Board of Marriage & Family Therapy and MN Board of Behavioral Health & Therapy.* 1 ethics CEU, 2 Cultural Competency

Questions? Looking for student or group discounts? Contact Melanie Vinton: melanie@ilifecounseling.com