Coercive Control - The Patterns - Whangaparaoa

It wasn't your fault. Your nervous system was conditioned.

Coercive control doesn't leave a generic imprint. It leaves one shaped by your specific history, your attachment system, and the particular ways control was built around you. The isolation that narrowed your world. The financial control that removed your ability to move. The information control that replaced your memory with someone else's version of events. The exhaustion that wasn't weakness – it was the point.

In this 3-hour workshop, Anna Roters from The Embodied Practice maps how coercive control operates – the architecture of it, the mechanisms, and what it did to your nervous system over time. You'll leave with a framework for understanding what happened, why it worked, and what your body was trying to tell you the whole time.

This workshop blends psychoeducation with somatic practice. You will leave with a clear understanding of the patterns of coercive control, awareness of how they show up in your body, and practical nervous system tools you can use immediately.

What we cover:

• The nervous system under sustained threat – why you couldn't just leave

• The architecture of control – isolation, financial control, information control

• DARVO — how your own instincts became the problem

• The fawn response – why keeping the peace felt like survival

• Your attachment system as the entry point

• What comes back – reclamation and your nervous system

What's included:

• Comprehensive workshop handout

• Body mapping exercise

• Guided somatic practices

• Integration and reflection time

• Resource sheet and referral pathways

This workshop is educational, not therapeutic. An experienced support person is present throughout. Maximum 8 participants.

No previous experience required – just a willingness to understand what happened.