Lean into the Skid

LEAN INTO THE SKID: Skill up to hold conflict in community

A 3 day Community Mediation training
Friday June 7 - Sunday June 9

Conflict is a natural part of life. 

And yet, so many of us still do not know how to skillfully move through conflict when it emerges. Especially in the Pacific Northwest, a ubiquitous culture of conflict avoidance can keep us from moving towards conflict or voicing hard truths that need to be revealed for growth to happen.

Our ability to move through conflict will make or break our communities and movements for social change. As powerful as our visions may be, we will not be able to birth them into reality if we cannot weather the natural conflict that comes up and lean into the skid.

One of the reasons conflict is challenging is that it surfaces our wounds and relational traumas. This can make it challenging for us to show up as our best selves, resulting in conversations that lead to further rupture rather than repair. This is why the presence and support of a third party to mediate or hold space for conflicts in community can be so important & transformative.

Lean into the Skid is designed to build your skills, confidence, and clarity around how to support others in conflict.

This training differs from a conventional 40-hour Mediation Training because it will center an awareness of trauma, somatics, power, and attachment in how we understand and move through conflict. 

This offering is for you if you:

• Have a natural skill for holding multiple perspectives
• Want to support the cohesion & harmony of your community
• Wish you had a more concrete process to lean on for navigating conflict in community

What you will receive:

• A clear, personalized process for how to mediate conflicts
• Core capacities, skills, and strategies for holding others in conflict
• A training packet full of teachings, frameworks, and questions for holding conflict
• Practice mediating in a role play scenario
• Ideas for community conflict policies & processes
• Supportive connections with other community conflict-tenders

Quotes from participants in previous Healing Rising courses: 

“One of the most amazing and energizing workshops I've taken. I came out of these sessions with a deeper knowledge of myself and a clearer understanding of where I can go with intention and authenticity.”

“Lux creates a comfortable environment where it is safe to be vulnerable and make mistakes. The lessons, discussions, and community enriched my life so profoundly that words cannot express.”

This training draws on teachings from: 

• Somatic Experiencing (SE)
• Kai Cheng Thom
• Nonviolent Communication (NVC)
• SEEDS Community Resolution Center
• Right Use of Power Institute
• The Dispute Resolution Center of Thurston County

Location & Logistics:

The daily schedule is 9:30 am - 5:30 pm with a break for lunch from 12:30 pm - 1:30 pm.

This offering is being hosted at Concrescence on the Olympic Peninsula in Chimacum, WA. Address will be sent upon registration.

If you are coming from further away, you can sleep on site in any of these ways:

• camping (bring your own tent + gear)
• sleeping in your camper vehicle (flat parking available)
• sleeping in the main yurt (bring your own pad, pillow + blankets/sleeping bag)

There is also access to an indoor and outdoor shower and a shared kitchen (with fridge, burners, and a toaster oven) for all who stay on site. 

Investment:

$300 - $900 sliding scale

Sign up with a collaborator or colleague for a discount! 

The "Comrades in Conflict Transformation" package for $500 offers discounted tickets to 2 people working together in an organization or community who want to gain conflict skills for the good of their collective.

A handful of scholarship spots are also available - to apply, fill out this form: https://forms.gle/Vp79fJu4r41QGAox7

Sliding Scale Guidance:

A sliding scale is an equity-based payment structure where the participant’s financial situation informs the rate they pay for a service. 

The bullet points listed below are just examples to help guide your self-assessment. I trust you to factor in these considerations and choose the level that feels right for you at this moment.

Choose a rate on the low end ($300-500) of the sliding scale if you:

• Do not have a financial safety net
• Have large debt or student loans
• Are Black, Indigenous, or otherwise systemically disadvantaged based on your identities

Choose a rate in the middle ($500-700) of the sliding scale if you:

• Can go out to eat without thinking about your finances
• Have a salaried job with benefits
• Have family that would financially support you if you needed it

Choose a rate on the high end ($700-900) of the sliding scale if you:

• Own property or other significant assets
• Make over $100K per year
• Never feel scared of not having enough

Please pay at the highest rate that you are able to, and know that there is no ceiling. Your generosity supports me in offering scholarships to those who are unable to afford these rates. 

About the Facilitator:

Lux Gypsum is a community organizer, relational healer, and cultural visionary who believes that revolution happens at the level of relationship. With over 9 years of facilitation experience and dozens of trainings under their belt, Lux has cultivated a strong capacity to hold potent group containers for interpersonal skill-building and cultural transformation. Some of Lux’s politicized identities are white (Northern European ancestry), AFAB, non-binary, and queer. Lux has an ongoing practice of anti-racism work and is committed to uprooting internalized supremacy culture. They are also becoming more deeply trauma-informed through receiving training in Somatic Experiencing, a well known body-based modality for healing trauma. In addition to holding regular community workshops and events, Lux also serves the community as a Conflict Mediator, Relationship Coach, and Community Consultant, supporting individuals, couples, and groups to embody the world they long to live in. You can follow Lux's work and offerings on Instagram @healing.rising and by signing up for their newsletter at www.healingrising.com.

Questions? Email lux@healingrising.com