Tools for Tween/Teen boys aged 12 - 14

This workshop is a wonderful opportunity for boys to gain valuable knowledge and skills that will empower them as they navigate relationships and the growing understanding of their own bodies. The focus will be on laying a strong foundation for healthy emotional, mental, and relational development.

In this workshop, your son will gain tools to foster a healthy attitude toward his body, his masculinity, and to develop a positive mindset about his emerging maturity.

Please Note:

• This workshop is not focused on explicit discussions about sex but will provide important foundations for healthy emotional and relational skills in the future.

• The information will be delivered in a fun, age-appropriate, and gentle manner.

• The workshop will be structured around "practical tools" for your son to use (mindset, communication, emotional regulation).

• The workshop will be phone-free (phones will be collected and stored in a basket, and participants can check them during breaks if needed).

There will be three key parts to the workshop:

1. Mindset Tools – We will explore the impact of media on self-perception and build critical thinking skills, we will be focusing on the concept of the “man box” - this refers to a set of societal expectations and stereotypes about masculinity that pressure men to behave in certain ways in order to conform to traditional ideas of what it means to be a man.
   This is important because with increased exposure to social media, boys are often faced with distorted images of masculinity and unrealistic expectations. We’ll address how to maintain a healthy mindset amidst these pressures. And discuss ways to break free from the “man box” and to embrace authentic and healthy ways of expressing themselves.

2. Communication Tools – We will discuss healthy ways to express, and receive, "No" in challenging (non-sexual) situations with friends and family. This is important because it’s crucial to recognise when something doesn't feel right ,and to have the language and confidence to both communicate and be mindful of boundaries in a respectful and assertive way.

3. Embodiment Tools – We will learn about both male and female anatomy and discuss how biology and the nervous system influences our emotions. This is important because understanding how the body works and how to listen to its signals is empowering. This knowledge helps boys trust their instincts, manage emotions, and develop a sense of inner strength.

There will be an opportunity for anonymous Q&A at the end of the workshop. If any concerns arise, I will follow up with you in a reflection email sent to all parents.

Parent/carer evening

This is an optional but highly recommended evening for parents, I will briefly cover the workshop material, show suggested resources for you to share with your child when you feel the time is right, and answer any questions you may have.

Monday 18th May: - 7pm-7.745pm (12-14yo boy focussed)


What to tell your son

This isn't specifically sex ed, and telling any tween or teen they are going to a sex ed workshop is going to feel awkward for them. So simply telling your child they are going to a "Tools for teens" workshop is enough. If they want more information it is up to you what you tell them, you could say there will be some talk about the messages from the media, and also how to deal with sticky conversations with your friends, that type of thing. They might feel more comfortable going with a friend/friend group so please let any other parents of your son’s friends know about this workshop date.

My primary goals for the workshop are that the boys have fun, and they feel comfortable with me and the content. My secondary goals are that they leave feeling like their individuality matters, that the "man box" is optional, and they know all bodies are unique and diverse.