What to Do When Someone Isn't Okay: Emotional First Aid for Kinksters

🗓 Friday, October 30, 2026 | 🕖 6 PM EDT | 12 AM SAST

📍 Online via Let it Reign

🎥 Recording available for 2 weeks

✦ Class Description ✦

As much fun as we like to have in kink, kinksters are only people. And sometimes people emotionally struggle or are overwhelmed. It's part of life. For us, it might happen during a scene, immediately afterward, hours later, or in the middle of an emotionally difficult conversation, or in spaces unrelated to kink. And when you're the person sitting beside them, it can be surprisingly hard to know what actually helps. We can feel helpless and uncertain in those moments.

This class is about what to do in those situations. It discusses the practice of emotional first aid, or how to respond in the immediate moments following overwhelm, traumatic experiences, high moments of stress, and more.

We'll look at some of the places kink makes responding complicated, how to recognize there is a problem that needs addressing, managing your instincts to fix the problem, helping to create grounding and connection, helping to ease the way for someone's recovery, and more.

Emotional first aid isn't therapy or a replacement for therapy, and it won't guarantee to fix someone's hard or difficult feelings and situation. But you can become more capable of responding well when another human being is having a hard time in front of you. Come learn how to look, listen, link, and recognize your limits, so that "I don't know what to do" doesn't have to be the end of your skill set.

✦ About the Educator ✦

Ember Solaris (they/she) is a Sadistic D-type leaning switch and social scientist who infuses her passion for research into every class she presents. A professional information sponge and infodumper, Ember's classes combine depth, passion, ferocity, and ethical complexity.

Ember collaborates with their co-organizer Ms_Kitten_ to run the Let it Reign and Reign of Blood platforms to provide quality, accessible kink education across experience levels, interests, and intensity preferences. Ember has taught across the country and beyond and regularly presents online. A disabled, queer, genderqueer nerd, they live in the gray spaces and hope to meet you there.

📍 FetLife: @xSolaris

✦ Tickets & Access ✦

🎟 Individual Ticket:

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💌 Scholarships: Applications open, please complete the form below

✦ How to Access Your Class ✦

🔗 Zoom link will be available in the virtual event hub and emailed to you via Humanitix one hour before the class starts. Please check your spam folder if you do not receive it.

✦ Scholarships ✦

Let it Reign offers community scholarships to support access for those who need it. Scholarships are limited and issued on a rolling basis. Codes must not be shared. Misuse leads to removal of access to future programs.

Scholarships close the Monday a week before the class.

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📋 More information: https://fetlife.com/Reign_Of_Blood/posts/13589421

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