What Do You Really Want?
Description
What is this workshop about?
Have you ever said yes when your whole body was saying no?
Given until you felt resentful, or held back from asking for what you wanted in case it was “too much”?
Most of us were never taught how to notice what we really want in our relationships, let alone how to ask for it or how to receive it without guilt. This workshop is a warm, unhurried invitation to change that.
Over two spacious days, you'll build the communication and consent skills that make relationships feel safer, clearer and more alive, with a partner, with the people you're closest to, and with yourself.
Through simple, practical, embodied practices, you'll be supported to slow down, notice what genuinely feels good, and express your desires and limits with more ease and honesty. This is the foundation of wholehearted, connected relating.
This work is grounded in the Wheel of Consent®, a beautifully simple and profound framework for understanding the dynamics that shape how we give and receive in relationship. You don't need to know anything about it to begin, just your curiosity and a willingness to listen inwardly.
Seasoned practitioners and complete beginners are equally welcome. Wherever you're starting from is the right place to begin. Choice and body sovereignty are at the heart of this work.
Who is this for?
This workshop is for anyone who wants more clarity, ease and closeness in how they relate, in partnership, and everyday connection.
Come on your own to deepen your relationship with yourself and build skills you'll carry into every connection, or come with a friend or partner to discover a shared language for consent, desire and care. All relationships, all bodies, all genders are warmly welcome.
What you'll explore and learn
Over the two days, through gentle group exploration and clearly negotiated non-sexual touch activities, you'll be supported to:
Slow down and notice what genuinely feels good to you, rather than tolerating what doesn't
Build a shared language for desire, limits and care that you can carry into your relationships
Sense the difference between giving, receiving, and simply going along with something and why that difference matters
Grow your confidence in naming what you want, and in truly hearing what someone else wants
Reconnect with your own yes and no, and feel the ease, safety and closeness this brings
Ask for what you'd like, and discover a wholehearted yes or no in return
A note on touch and sex
If you're wondering whether this is “a sex thing”, it isn't.
The Wheel can absolutely enrich intimate relationships, and this particular workshop keeps its focus on the foundations: touch, boundaries, choice and clear agreements. Everything moves at the pace of your own comfort.
Many of us have learned to experience touch and sex as merged together, which can make it hard to explore touch on its own. In this workshop, the two are deliberately held apart.
Our practices are non-sexual and fully clothed, and touch is always an option you choose not an expectation.
You're welcome to take part with touch or without it, to work on your own or with others, to rest or journal, and to change your mind at any point. Nothing happens without your clear yes.
What is the Wheel of Consent®?
The Wheel of Consent® was developed by Dr Betty Martin. It is an embodied framework for clarity, choice and empowered interaction in both touch and non-touch dynamics.
By distinguishing “who is doing” and “who it is for,” the Wheel helps untangle common confusion in relating and builds capacity for clear, empowered agreements.
This work supports you to notice, trust, and communicate your desires and limits, not just in your head, but through your body.
Learn more here https://www.schoolofconsent.org/wheel
What can you expect?
A focus on self-awareness, authentic communication, and consent.
Practices that are fully clothed, with non-touch options always available.
Choice at every step: you can pause, adapt, decline, or opt out of any activity at any time.
A welcoming space for individuals and couples alike, with room to work on your own, with a partner, or with others in the group.
A beautiful bush-retreat setting on Wurundjeri Country with natural light, birdsong, old red gums, and quiet places to walk and rest between sessions
A welcoming, inclusive and trauma-informed space, held by Alexandra Heynatz and Jo Watson Certified Facilitators with the School of Consent
Ticket pricing
Your ticket covers two full days of facilitation with Alexandra and Jo, both certified facilitators with the School of Consent - morning and afternoon tea, and a beautiful natural retreat setting to learn and rest in.
• Individual - early bird: $375 (limited tickets)
• Individual - standard: $395
• Couples ticket (admits two) - early bird: $730 (limited tickets)
• Couples ticket (admits two) - standard: $760
We never want cost to be the reason someone can't come. If the price is a barrier, please write to us at consentembodied@gmail.com - we offer a limited number of concession places and instalment payments.
Dates & times
Saturday 24 October 2026 - 10:00am-5:00pm
Sunday 25 October 2026 - 10:00am-5:00pm
The workshop is non-residential.
FAQs
- What does each day look like?
The workshop structure balances embodied activities with reflective learning.
Each day includes a mix of guided activities that support noticing and communicating your own desires, needs and limits; group reflections and discussions; and breaks for rest and integration.
- I'm coming with a partner — will we work together?
You can practise together and with others in the group, bringing your learning back to each other — it's your choice.
There's no pressure either way, and you can decide moment to moment.
- Can I come on my own?
Absolutely.
Many participants come solo with opportunity for solo and partnered practices in each exercise. You'll be gently supported throughout.
- What do I need to know about the workshop venue?
Vine and Branches Personal Growth Centre is a beautiful bush retreat on Wurundjeri Country, very close to the Birrarung River and Possum Bend in Lower Plenty. It is surrounded by abundant birdlife and old red gum trees, with many natural places to walk and rest during breaks.
Our workshop room has natural light and is comfortable, spacious and well ventilated.
The venue is accessibly located for most Melbourne suburbs.
There is plenty of unrestricted parking at the venue.
Please also see the access information on Humanitix.
- Accessibility and inclusion
We aim to create an accessible, inclusive space. Please let us know ahead of time if you have any access requirements, support needs, or questions so we can best support your participation.
We will have cushions and chairs available, and we warmly invite you to bring anything that supports your comfort, including additional pillows, cushions, blankets or shawls.
Refer to 'accessibility information' for further details about venue.
- Do I need to bring anything?
Please bring your own lunch, plus a sealed water bottle (drinking vessels without lids aren't permitted in the workshop room).
Please bring a journal or notepad and a pen.
Morning and afternoon tea will be provided, including gluten-free options
- Have a question before booking?
We'd love to hear from you. If anything about the workshop is unclear, or you'd like to talk something through before deciding, please reach out at consentembodied@gmail.com — questions of any kind are genuinely welcome.
- What is our policy on refunds and cancellations?
Tickets are refundable if requested 14+ days before the event start date.
Requests made after this timeframe are not eligible for a refund unless we can fill your spot.
This workshop runs with a minimum of 14 and a maximum of 20 participants plus facilitators/ assistants.
In the unlikely event the minimum isn't reached, all participants will be contacted and offered a full refund or transfer.
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