The White Picket Fallacy

Fri 15th, Sat 16th and Sun 24th November, 2024, from 10am - 5pm each day

Holy matriMOANy.

This retreat is for anyone who has ever gagged after being asked "ohhh so when is it going to be YOUR turn?"  🤮

The White Picket Fallacy is three days of connecting and learning with like-minded others... mostly women who don't want their wombs occupied or to be the "it" that apparently should have a ring on it. It is also for everyone aged from 18 to 88 who has previously bought into the fallacy, and has now seen the light of alternative possibilities in their life! You are welcome to join us if you are:

•  rejecting the idea of marriage and children from the get-go
•  a man who has been burnt by marriage and doesn't want to go there again
•  a non-binary person who cringes at being called husband, wife OR spouse
•  a woman who has had children and knows you wouldn't do it again given the choice
•  a member of the LGBTQIA+ community who has worked hard to carve out your own identity, and doesn't want to default to normalised gender and family roles

This retreat is NOT for you if:

•  you're sitting on the fence about whether to have children or not
•  you're holding on to your white picket fantasy whilst grieving the loss of some part of it
•  you think marriage is the ultimate relationship goal but you just haven't found "the one" yet

Our goals for the White Picket Fallacy retreat are to:

1.  reassure you that there is nothing wrong with you in not wanting to get married or have children
2.  give you the psychological skills to navigate a world that constantly tells you the opposite
3.  connect you with a community that is walking a similar path, so you don't have to walk it alone

Here's our structure. We'll come together on a Friday and Saturday one weekend, where Day 1 and Day 2 will be focused on getting to know each other, and also getting to know ourselves a little more. Then we'll take a break for a week, giving you some time to reflect on what we've covered, and regroup the following Sunday for Day 3. Our topics for discussion will be:

Day 1:  Who am I?  Getting clear on our sense of self, minus the socially-constructed roles of "wife", "mother", "good girl" etc. Includes a deep dive into our strengths of character, our values, and our identity as creative beings.

Day 2:  How am I?  Exploring skills for checking in with ourselves, navigating challenges and considering how we show up in the world. Includes cognitive-behavioural techniques for self-awareness, emotional regulation, mindfulness and cultivating compassion.

   ~  Week-long break for reflecting on and practicing the above  ~

Day 3:  From me to we to us.  A rejection of marriage and/or child bearing does not equal solitude! In fact, your relationships with friends, partners and community can grow, evolve and deepen more easily when they're not limited by the typical expectations. Our final retreat day includes an exploration of what authenticity means for you, a framework for deepening trust, and discussions on moving from fear to safety in relationships.

If this is exactly what you never realised you needed, we're excited to meet you! If you're not sure yet if this is the right fit for you, you're very welcome to call and discuss any uncertainties with your host, Bek, on 0412 111 957.

You get to be the author of your own life story.  ✍🏽 😎

We offer the creative space where you can write the plotline.  📝 🙏🏽