Desire, Boundaries & Connection - An Introduction Workshop

What do you actually want?

It sounds like a simple question, but we make hundreds of small choices around other people every day.

Do I want this?
Would I prefer something different?
Can I ask for that?
How will the other person respond?
Am I saying yes because I genuinely want to, or because it feels easier?

And underneath all of that, what is your body already telling you?

Desire, Boundaries & Connection is a practical, body-based workshop about getting clearer on what feels right for you and becoming more confident communicating it with other people.

It includes desire and intimacy, but it is not just about what happens in the bedroom.

These skills show up everywhere: dating, relationships, friendships, family, social situations and all the little negotiations that happen whenever two people’s wants and needs meet.

Through guided individual, paired and group practices, Velvet will help you explore how to recognise your own yeses, nos and maybes, ask for what you want more clearly and respond to other people’s choices without taking them personally.

The aim isn’t to become more assertive, more sexual or more adventurous.

It’s about becoming a little better at hearing yourself and others.

No previous experience is needed. You can attend solo, with a friend or with a partner.

What we’ll explore

During the workshop, Velvet will guide you through practical exercises around:

• noticing how yes, no, maybe and not yet feel for you

• understanding boundaries through the body, not just intellectually

• asking for what you want

• communicating preferences and limits

• giving and receiving

• hearing someone else’s yes or no without pressure

• noticing when you are making a choice versus following an automatic habit

• becoming more present with yourself and the person in front of you

• creating connection without needing to perform

The workshop includes discussion, reflection and guided individual, paired and group exercises.

You will never be expected to share personal information with the group or disclose anything you would prefer to keep private.

Why come?

A lot of us are surprisingly good at adapting to other people.

We notice what they want, read the room and work out what will keep things comfortable.

What we are not always as good at is stopping long enough to ask: What do I want here?

That does not mean becoming selfish or ignoring other people. Quite the opposite. The clearer you are about yourself, the easier it becomes to meet another person honestly rather than guessing, pleasing or quietly hoping they understand.

You may leave with a clearer sense of your own boundaries, more confidence asking for what you want, practical language for consent and negotiation and a better understanding of how your body responds when something feels like a yes, a no or somewhere in between.

Those skills can support desire and intimacy, but they are just as relevant to relationships, work, dating, friendships and everyday communication.

Attending solo or with a partner

You are welcome to attend alone, with a friend or with a partner. No pre-arranged partner is needed, and many people will attend solo.

For paired practices, Velvet will guide the group through a simple process of moving around the room and meeting the person in front of them. Partners will change throughout the workshop, so there is no need to find or secure someone to work with.

If you attend with a partner, you can choose to stay together for the practices or explore working with different people. Both options are welcome.

You will never be required to work with someone or take part in a practice that does not feel right for you. You can also adapt an exercise, observe or sit it out.

What happens during the workshop?

The afternoon will include:

• A welcome and group agreements

• An introduction to embodied consent and boundaries

• Individual reflection and body-awareness practices

• Guided communication exercises

• Optional paired and small-group practices

• Opportunities to explore asking, giving, receiving and choosing

• Group discussion and integration

The practices may involve conversation, movement, eye contact, proximity or optional touch.

Velvet will explain each exercise before it begins, including what is involved and how you can modify it, opt out or participate in a different way.

Will there be touch?

Some exercises may include optional, negotiated touch.

Any touch will take place within the clear boundaries established for the exercise and between the people involved. You decide whether and where touch is included for you and who you work with.

The workshop is clothed.

The focus is on awareness, communication, choice and connection.

Consent and participation

Everything in the workshop is invitational.

You will never be required to:

• Touch another person

• Receive touch

• Share personal experiences

• Explain a boundary

• Complete every exercise

Consent is ongoing and reversible.

You can say yes, no, maybe, not yet or stop. You can change your mind at any point, including after an exercise has begun.

Watching, adapting a practice or stepping out are all valid forms of participation.

Access to future Temple events

Completing this workshop gives you access to future Love & Play Temple events without needing to repeat the consent training each time.

The workshop establishes the shared consent framework, communication practices, boundaries and Temple etiquette used across Love & Play Temples. Once completed, you can book future eligible temple events directly, including temple-only tickets where offered.

Each temple may have a different theme, facilitator or style of exploration, but the core Love & Play framework will remain consistent.

Wondering what a temple involves? Scroll down to the bottom.

Meet your facilitator

Velvet Lilith

Velvet Lilith is a Somatic Sexologist, sex coach and sex educator.

Her work supports people to move away from performing sexuality and towards a more honest relationship with their bodies, desires and choices.

Velvet draws on somatic sexology, sex-positive education, nervous system awareness, Tantra and Neo-Tantra. Her approach is practical, body-based and grounded in the belief that people can learn to better understand and communicate what feels true for them.

Her work creates space for curiosity, uncertainty and change. Rather than prescribing what sexuality should look like, she supports people to question inherited scripts and explore what desire, pleasure and connection mean for them personally.

About the venue

The workshop will take place at The Breath Bar, a warm and welcoming studio in central Geelong.

The Breath Bar
Level 1, 138A Malop Street
Geelong VIC 3220

The venue is located upstairs and is not wheelchair accessible.

The workshop includes periods of sitting, standing, moving around the room and working on floor mats. Please contact Love & Play before booking if you have mobility limitations or other accessibility requirements.

Detailed arrival information will be sent to ticket holders before the event.

What to wear

Wear clean, comfortable clothing that allows you to move, sit and lie down easily.

Suitable options include:

• Comfortable trousers or leggings

• A soft top or T-shirt

• Layers you can add or remove

• Warm socks

Please avoid sharp jewellery, rough embellishments, restrictive clothing and strong perfume or scented body products.

What to bring

Please bring:

• A water bottle

• A notebook and a pen

Privacy, phones, alcohol and drugs

This is an alcohol- and drug-free event.

Do not attend while affected by alcohol, recreational drugs or any substance that significantly affects your judgement, communication or awareness.

No photographs, videos or recordings are permitted during the workshop. Phones and recording devices must be switched off and put away before the session begins.

You may speak about your own experience afterwards, but please protect the identities and privacy of other participants.

Arrival and timing

Please arrive between 11:15 am and 11:30 am.

Doors close at 11:30 am.

The opening section includes essential group agreements and consent information. Late arrivals cannot be admitted once the workshop has begun.

Event details

Date: Saturday 31 October 2026
Time: 11:30 am–3:30 pm
Arrival: 11:15 am–11:30 am
Venue: The Breath Bar, Level 1, 138A Malop Street, Geelong
Age: 18+
Experience required: None
Attend: Solo, with friends or with a partner or partners
Love & Play Spice level: 2 Chillies (Clothed touch)
Accessibility: The upstairs venue is not wheelchair accessible
Alcohol and drugs: This is an alcohol- and drug-free event

Tickets, refunds and transfers

Tickets are non-refundable.

When you can no longer attend, you may transfer your ticket to another person or request to transfer its value to a later eligible Love & Play event, subject to availability and the applicable transfer conditions.

Transfer requests must be received before the event begins.

Tickets cannot be refunded or transferred if you arrive too late to be admitted or do not attend.

If Love & Play cancels or reschedules the event, ticket holders will be contacted directly with the available options.

Questions before booking?

You are welcome to contact Love & Play at hello@loveanplay.co if you have questions about the practices, touch, consent, attending alone, working only with your partner, accessibility or anything else that may affect your participation.

Come as you are, stay curious and choose what feels right for you.

What is a temple night?

A Love & Play Temple is a facilitated, clothing-optional evening for exploring connection, sensation, desire and consensual play.

Temple nights usually begin with guided practices and a reminder of the shared agreements. The space then becomes more free-flowing, allowing participants to follow their own pace and interests.

Depending on the event and the choices of the people involved, a temple may include conversation, eye contact, sensory experiences, massage, kissing, nudity, erotic touch or consensual sexual activity. Some people may explore sexually, while others may remain fully clothed, connect through gentle touch, observe, rest or spend time on their own.

There is no expectation to undress, be touched or connect sexually with anyone. Every interaction is optional. Consent is freely given, informed, enthusiastic and specific - and you can change your mind at any time.

Our next upcoming Temple event can be found here: https://events.humanitix.com/conscious-sexuality-connection-full-day-workshop-temple-dec-05