Hi men. In the last 3 years we have a circle of men that meet every fortnight and talk, differently, more honest, more from the heart, with less masks and small talks. Every one in this group (8 men ) is benefiting greatly from it. This group is a closed group, but as we keep hearing of men who would like to join and check how they feel in a similar setting, we have decided to open another group - Men Sharing Circle in Port Sorell. If you are curious or feel like you would like to have a different social interaction I invite you to give it a go. No cost. No hidden agenda. just being a human being.
below is the guide line we use in Rivendell - trauma recovery center in Burnie Private Hospital (I took out what is not relevant to this setting), to get an idea of how it runs.
Because humans are social beings we are affected by other people and mostly by our closest ones, there is greater potential both to get hurt and to heal.
In the sharing circles we aim to create a safe space for healing.
Below is a guideline that helps create this effect that can be extremely effective in trauma recovery (and other supportive environments)
- What comes up here stays here. Total confidentiality.
- You don’t need to be anyone here but yourself, and you are welcome as you are (anxious, depressed, angry or whatever).
- We invite you to speak from the “I” and own the experience you have (and the ability to have effect over it)
- We don’t comment, suggest hand tissues or ask a question while another participant speaks as it might interrupt their process. If you must, please ask permission from the speaker first.
- You are welcome to share your experience, feelings and thoughts with the group. We ask to be sensitive to the other participants while talking about trauma or abuse that may be triggering.
- Every one gets a turn to speak. We acknowledge the fact it can be difficult to speak infront of others. If you do not want to speak, or answer a question that is totally fine and we respect that. You are welcome to just come and listen.
- We invite you to practice Mindful Listening - with intention to be compassionate, accepting the fact that we are different people, with different experiences, expressions, chapters and life, and with attention to the person who speaks and to what comes up in you while listening.
- Some of the above are easier said than done. Like any other practices, it takes time to get the hang of it. The facilitator’s job is to contain the circle and boundaries. It is not your job, no need to take it on or worry that you have “said too much” (you will be gently reminded of the guideline if not following it)
- Your willingness to allow yourself to be vulnerable (in a safe space) is a part of trauma recovery and could help not only you but to another person who mindfully is listening to you.
To register a spot please book in Humanitix